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Reach us Scott Winter Assistant City Editor 701-250-8225 Section Sunday, February 6, 2000 The Bismarck Tribune bntght's TV tips Hockey The 50th NHL All-Star game in Toronto. Pittsburgh Penguin right wing Jaromir Jagr led the fan balloting, becoming the first player to receive more than 1 million votes. ABC Good Book of Love" Authors and scholars (as well as Dr. Ruth) review tales of s-e-x in the Scriptures, from Adam and Eve to Sodom and Gomorrah. "Nick News" Writer-pro ducer Linda Ellerbee shaped "IifeStory: Muhammad AIL" a profile of the living legend.

Nickelodeon The Greatest Boxer. Muhammad Ali" Daugh i lf A ,1 fX i 4r' ter Laila Ali, trainer Angelo Dundee and fight doctor Ferdie Pacheco discuss the skills and sensational career of the three-time heavyweight champ. (Also airs at midnight) TLC "Futurama" Mating season poses problems for Zoidberg as the sci-fi spoof gets a new time slot Fox "King of the Hill" Buck's two-timed wife throws him out, takes over Strickland Propane and promotes Hank. Fox 'Malcolm in the Middle" Malcolm whups art annoying bully who turns out to be younger than he is. Fox I The X-Files" In the first of a two-parter, Mulder reopens the case of his sister's abduction.

Fox The Sopranos" In an episode written by creator David Chase, Tony travels to Italy, where he checks on business and acquires a new lieutenant HBO "Missing Pieces" Hearing that his estranged son (Paul Kersey) has died in Mexico, a rancher (James Coburn) investigates the mysterious incident. Lisa Zane co-stars in this "Hallmark Hall of Fame" drama. CBS "Shutterspeed" Steve Borden, better known to WCW fans as face-painted former champ Sting, plays a tough cop running to the r. tvv I 4 Laura Teunissen cuddles her foster child in her Bismarck home as she and her husband, Casey, talk about their experiences with adoption and foster parenting. rescue of his kidnapped fiancee (Daisy Fuentes).

TNT By Mike McCleary of the Tribune Los Angeles Times More foster parents needed across N.D. MARK HANSON Bismarck Tribune Author to speak in Bismarck Dakota Cooks Garlic Bread Deluxe 1 pound ground beef I teaspoon butter I small onion, chopped medium green pepper, chopped David Pelzer, the author of a trilogy of books on overcoming years of child abuse, will speak at Barnes and Noble in Bismarck at 7 p.m. Monday. The California native was nominated for the Pulitzer Prize for his first book, "A Child Called It," which spent time on the New York Times Best Sellers list, along with his second book, "The Lost Boy." The final book of the trio, "A Man Named Dave," is out in hardcover. The three books are based on Pelzer's life.

As a child, he endured child abuse, which included physical torture, cup salsa cup ketchup teaspoon sugar teaspoon oregano teaspoon dried basil Erica Schmidt and Chris Meyer, Raster, "1998 North Dakota High School Beef Bash." Pelzer mental cruelty and near starvation. His case was called one of the most severe in California's history. He spent about six years in foster care. Pelzer will speak for about 20 minutes and sign copies of his books. A teaspoon salt '4 teaspoon garlic powder 'A teaspoon coarsely ground pepper cup Parmesan cheese 1 package (3.5 ounces) pepperoni 1 package (8 ounces) Colby Jack cheese 1 1-pound loaf French bread 2 tablespoons melted butter Garlic powder to taste Qualifications for foster care The goal of foster care is to provide for the physical, emotional and social needs of children and youths in a substitute family setting until the natural family can be reunited or a permanent placement can be arranged.

Burleigh and Morton Social Services has an application process for foster parents, which includes a list of qualifications and responsibilities. The qualifications: Ability to provide physical and emotional care, guidance and discipline. Ability to provide a bed and personal space for the child and his or her belongings. Adequate income for the support of one's own family, not dependent on foster care payments. Ability to understand each child's unique history and meet his or her needs.

Some experience in providing care for children, understanding of child development Ability to welcome a child into their home as well as encourage him or her. Ability to work as a member of a team with the social worker, teacher and others. Ability to respect the confidentiality of information about the child and his or her family. A commitment to promoting reunification of families, a belief in people's ability to grow. Nonjudgmental approach to the child and his or her family; recognition that all families have difficulties at some time.

When Dan Buckmeier has a cute little baby boy or girl who needs to be placed in foster care, he doesn't have much trouble. But when he has a teenager, especially a male, the process becomes more difficult "Generally speaking, when you're talking age 13 and up, they're usually unruly as well as deprived, so they're harder to place," said Buckmeier, a social worker with Burleigh-Morton Social Services. It's not just teens, though. Many children are in need and more foster parents are needed not only locally, but across the state. "We could double the number of foster families we have," Buckmeier said.

Children are placed in foster care through a court order. The children are at risk for being harmed in their home or their parents are showing signs that the child could be at risk. The children fall into three categories: Deprived, where the parents aren't taking care of the kids and are abusive; unruly, where the parents and children are in conflict; and delinquent, where the children are violating laws and rules. "Most of the unruly children come from a deprived background," said Darlene Hill, foster care supervisor for Burleigh and Morton counties. The average number of foster children in Burleigh and Morton counties is 116, and there are 49 licensed foster families.

Some of those families can handle one child, others up to four. And in some cases, like one Bismarck family, the foster children are related to their foster parents. ter parents when the care was for their grandchildren, but they said it also made them more aware of the problems other children face. They are licensed to have three foster children and they both said they'd take on another, a stranger, anytime. "Absolutely we'd take another," Laura Teunissen said.

"It's touched us to see what our grandkids went through and know that others are going through it The door is open." More foster parents are always needed, both locally and across the state. North Dakota had 1,716 foster children in fiscal year 1999, according to Jean Dahl with the state Department of Human Services' foster care program. And there are 643 licensed foster homes. "We'd like to have a sufficient number to match children's needs to providers," Dahl said. "We can't always do that And some foster parents get tired and would like to take a break, but sometimes we can't do that, either." To become a foster parent, contact your county social services office.

"It's families helping families," Hill said. Casey and Laura Teunissen have been foster parents for about seven years, or basically since their grandson was born. The couple said their daughter was having trouble with alcohol and they could no longer watch the boy be shuffled from baby sitter to baby sitter. "I went to social services when I saw the neglect that was happening," Laura Teunissen said. When they became foster parents, the Teunissens thought it would be for a few months, maybe a year, which would be enough time for their daughter to turn her life around.

Foster kids may only stay one night in some cases, but the average stay is about one year. The Teunissens came to realize their grandchildren would be staying for a long time. "She came to realize she couldn't do it," Laura Teunissen said of her daughter. Today, the Teunissens have both of their daughter's sons, a 7-year-old and a 4-year-old. The mother has since given up her parental rights and the grandparents have filed for adoption.

It was a little easier becoming fos Brown ground beef in frying pan; remove from pan and drain well. In same pan, melt butter and partially saute the onion and green pepper. Combine beef with onion and green pepper and reheat. Add the salsa, ketchup, sugar, seasonings, Parmesan cheese, pepperoni and half of Colby Jack cheese. Prepare the loaf of French bread by making a V-shaped cut l'i inches wide and 1 inches deep.

Peel out the center of the bread. Depending on the shape and size of the loaf, this may need to be a larger cut, creating a bigger hollow in the loaf to accommodate all of the filling. Brush the bread with melted butter and sprinkle with desired amount of garlic powder. Bake the bread at 350 degrees for 3 to 4 minutes until it's browned slightly on the edges. Put a layer of cheese on the bottom of the baked bread and pour in the beef mixture.

Top the bread and beef with remaining Colby Jack cheese. Sprinkle a pinch of Parmesan cheese onto the bread. Bake at 350 degrees for 7 to 8 minutes or until it is heated all the way through. Serves 6. aising our children how did we ever do it? Dish Soap Karen Herzog Tribune repoiier and realAife main in a stroller and led another by the hand, on a trek from home to store to home that felt as arduous as a Sherpa expedition through the Himalayas.

Mom has put them both into snow-suits, hats, mitten and scarves, wrapped them up in blankets, buckled them into their carseats like mini-astronauts, gotten themselves and the grocery list and the checkbook and coat and purse and diaper bags into the car. Mom has driven to the store and unloaded all of the above, carrying with one arm the littler child in a slippery nylon snowsuit that doesn't cling to a coat, and the other by a mittened hand that keeps slipping out, leaving them holding onto their child by only a mitten string. Then she has swung them into a grocery cart, the little one in front, the bigger one in back, and pushed 40 or 50 pounds of child through the store, on top of the grocery pounds. Then mom packs all kid paraphernalia, themselves, groceries and kids back into the car for the ride home. Once there, mom unloads all the above into the house, either putting kids in the playpen while unloading the groceries, or leaving the kids in car seats until the groceries are on the counter.

(She's learned not to leave a 1-year-old and a 3-year-old in the house while unpacking the car. In the five minutes a back is turned, they can climb to the top of the piano, clog the toilet and unroll an entire roll of paper towels.) Then mom puts the kids down for a nap, puts away the groceries and drops into a chair for 10 minutes of dull, vacant staring. With each step toward growing up, the physical load gets lighter. Kids learn to walk, to go to the bathroom by themselves, feed themselves, get their own drinks of water, learn not to run in the street. Finally, they learn to drive a car.

They get jobs. They get taller than mom. The Yellow Alert dims a little. There are finally moments when mom can truly relax, only to find out that she's kind of forgotten how. She has to releam relaxation.

And it's delicious. But she still misses that baby powder smell. get mad. In the department store, they bend down a hundred times to pick up toys and keys dropped on the floor and rescue the chewed checkbook that was somehow lifted from her purse. Mom bends sideways to put them down in their cribs.

Sideways to lift them out Again and again. When they learn to crawl, then walk, Mom spends all day keeping up with them. At night, one ear is always on duty, jerking Mom out of bed at every sound. Mom is on constant Yellow Alert, punctuated by horrible moments of Red Alert, for years at a time. There is no Stand Down time.

Even if there was, Mom would refuse to completely relax because she's afraid that if she does fall asleep, she won't wake up for 15 years. With toddlers, mom spends months lifting them up to the potty and down from the potty, many times a day, until they get the idea. On the positive side, mom learns the exact number of flowers on her bathroom wallpaper. If mom has two or more small ones at the same time, she has pushed one Three of the hardest things about your children growing up are: no more inhaling the sweetness of that baby skin-baby powder smell, no more joyous toothless grins, no more heart-melting angelic sleeping faces. Three of the best things about your children growing up are: no more diapers, no more being a pack mule and no more sacrificing two precious hours of sleep late at night just to stay up and marinate in the blessed sound of silence.

-Looking after children is so calorie-draining that it's a wonder somebody hasn't glommed onto the idea of a diet book, "The Young Mothers' Run Around All Day Long and Sleep With One Eye Open Weight Loss Program." Mothers expend at least a jillion calories a day. When kids are really little, mom is up several times a night to feed them. Wrhen they get a little older, mom trails them around the house all day shutting open doors, plugging outlets, icjojsing silverware drawers and opening their little fists to see what microscopic bit of flotsam they've managed to spy in the carpet and are attempting to shove into their mouths. Mom chases them until they squeal and lifts them high into the air. Lifts them up onto their highchairs and threads them into their strollers.

Squirms them into snowsuits. Lifts them up to console them, and carries them when they get tired. Mom hikes the grocery store aisles twice every trip, once to pick out necessary groceries, and then to put back all the groceries they've snagged and are slurping. Mom holds onto them when they're tired and arch themselves backwards to get down, or stiffen up when they.